Beyond Shame. Beyond Perfectionism. Toward a More Authentic You.
Chaille Percival DeFaria
I believe lasting change begins when we understand ourselves rather than judge ourselves. As a Mental Health Consultant, ICF Master Certified Coach (MCC), and Daring Way™ Trained Facilitator, I specialize in anxiety, shame, perfectionism, and Body Focused Process Addictions (BFPA™). My work helps individuals break free from patterns of self-judgment, reconnect with who they are, and create lives rooted in courage, compassion, and authenticity.
– Belonging isn’t always about fitting in. Sometimes it’s about being reflected back.
Coming in 2028
I Can’t Get to Perfect
By the time I was twelve, I had lived in Hawaii, South Africa, the Virgin Islands, and a handful of American cities, always the new girl, always learning how to fit in. We landed in Aspen, in an apartment inside a family-run ski lodge, where moods set the weather and being wrong was dangerous. At fourteen I found a way to make the noise stop: I started pulling out my eyebrows. By fifteen I was singing in bars, dressed in fabulous outfits so no one would look too closely at my face. I Can’t Get to Perfect is a memoir about the secrets we keep to survive, the love we keep fighting for, and what it costs to spend a lifetime hiding in plain sight.
My memoir is in the final stages of editing. More to come soon.
– Sometimes the thing we thought made us unlovable becomes the very thing that helps someone else feel seen.
Body Focused Process Addictions (BFPAs™)
All addictions are tough. But what if you’re addicted to something you can never get away from? Your body.
BFPAs™ include pulling out hair, picking at skin, biting at nails, talking excessively and more.
How I Can Help
Take the mystery out of managing your mental health.
Consultation and coaching, by inquiry.
Emotional Literacy
The ability to identify emotions and name what we are feeling – puts us in choice. It offers us the opportunity to transform not only the way we see and value ourselves, but how we don’t have to be defined by the things we are not yet ready or able to change.