Beyond Shame. Beyond Perfectionism. Toward a More Authentic You.
Chaille Percival DeFaria
I believe lasting change begins when we understand ourselves rather than judge ourselves. As a Mental Health Consultant, ICF Master Certified Coach (MCC), and Daring Way™ Trained Facilitator, I specialize in anxiety, shame, perfectionism, and Body Focused Process Addictions (BFPA™). My work helps individuals break free from patterns of self-judgment, reconnect with who they are, and create lives rooted in courage, compassion, and authenticity.
– Belonging isn’t always about fitting in. Sometimes it’s about being reflected back.
Coming in 2028
I Can’t Get to Perfect
By the time I was twelve, I had lived in Hawaii, South Africa, the Virgin Islands, and a handful of American cities, always the new girl, always learning how to fit in. We landed in Aspen, in an apartment inside a family-run ski lodge, where moods set the weather and being wrong was dangerous. At fourteen I found a way to make the noise stop: I started pulling out my eyebrows. By fifteen I was singing in bars, dressed in fabulous outfits so no one would look too closely at my face. I Can’t Get to Perfect is a memoir about the secrets we keep to survive, the love we keep fighting for, and what it costs to spend a lifetime hiding in plain sight.
My memoir is in the final stages of editing. More to come soon.
– Sometimes the thing we thought made us unlovable becomes the very thing that helps someone else feel seen.
Body Focused Process Addictions (BFPAs™)
All addictions are tough. But what if you’re addicted to something you can never get away from? Your body.
BFPAs™ include pulling out hair, picking at skin, biting at nails, talking excessively and more.
How I Can Help
Take the mystery out of managing your mental health.
Consultation and coaching, by inquiry.