Based on research we know you can’t change behavior when you are in shame, so emotional recovery is the key.

Chaille Defaria

I am a Professional BFRB (Body-Focused Repetitive Behavioral) Coach who specializes in anxiety and shame, and am a Daring Way™ Facilitator of Dr. Brené Brown’s research. As an emotionally focused coach, I specialize in working with people who suffer with behavioral addiction.

I educate, guide, consult and teach others that it’s not the behavior that is destructive in ones life it is the shame, because shame is a focus on self not behavior. People in shame suffer deeply with scarcity. They are steeped in comparison and fractured by disengagement.

The opposite of scarcity is being enough.

Dr. Brené Brown’s research found two camps of people with anxiety: Group A found ways to manage and soothe anxiety and group B figured out they needed to set boundaries that aligned with their values.

CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), HRT (Habit Reversal Training) and ACT (Acceptance & Commitment Therapy) are viable strategies that I use. But I also wholeheartedly believe that understanding what we are feeling and experiencing at our core is the way out of fear, which is the way out of isolation, which holds the key to courage.

Chaille DeFaria

CPCC – Certified Professional Co-Active Coach
PCC – Professional Certified Coach
CNTC – Certified Neuroscience Coach
Brené Brown – Certified Daring Way™ Facilitator (Brené Brown)
TLC Board of Directors Member – bfrb.org


Pro rated consultation is the first step.

I am committed to making sure you are getting the help you need.

I coach adults, young adults, teens and their parents; working with clients around the world via FaceTime or Skype.

Contact me for a free consultation, rates and information.

As part of my commitment to raising awareness around Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors, I support the TLC Foundation for Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors.

Sharing knowledge.  Supporting recovery.  Finding a cure.

Emotional literacy – the ability to identify emotions and name what we are feeling – puts us in choice. It offers us the opportunity to transform not only the way we see and value ourselves, but how we don’t have to be defined by the things we are not yet ready or able to change.


Shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging.

Brené Brown

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