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Based on research we know you can’t change behavior when you are in shame, so emotional recovery is the key.

Chaille Defaria

I am a Professional Coach who specializes in emotionally focused coaching around BFRB’s, and am a Daring Way™ Facilitator of Dr. Brené Brown’s research.

I educate, guide, consult and teach others that it’s not the behavior that is destructive in ones life it is the shame, because shame is a focus on self not behavior. People in shame suffer deeply with scarcity. They are steeped in comparison and fractured by disengagement.

The opposite of scarcity is being enough.

Dr. Brené Brown’s research found two camps of people with anxiety: Group A found ways to manage and soothe anxiety and group B figured out they needed to set boundaries that aligned with their values.

CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), HRT (Habit Reversal Training) and ACT (Acceptance & Commitment Therapy) are viable strategies that I use. But I also wholeheartedly believe that understanding what we are feeling and experiencing at our core is the way out of fear, which is the way out of isolation, which holds the key to courage.

Chaille DeFaria

CPCC – Certified Professional Co-Active Coach
PCC – Professional Certified Coach
CNTC – Certified Neuroscience Coach
Brené Brown – Certified Daring Way™ Facilitator (Brené Brown)
TLC Board of Directors Member – bfrb.org

HOW I CAN HELP

I offer a free consultation.

I am committed to making sure you are getting the help you need.

I coach adults, young adults, teens and their parents; working with clients around the world via FaceTime or Skype.

Contact me for a free consultation, rates and information.

As part of my commitment to raising awareness around Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors, I support the TLC Foundation for Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors.

Sharing knowledge.  Supporting recovery.  Finding a cure.

Emotional literacy – the ability to identify emotions and name what we are feeling – puts us in choice. It offers us the opportunity to transform not only the way we see and value ourselves, but how we don’t have to be defined by the things we are not yet ready or able to change.

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Shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging.

Brené Brown

Events

One Day Daring Way™ Experiential Overview on 9/28/19

Saturday, September 28th, 2019  9:30AM-5:30PM (1 hr lunch) For more Information and to Register:  Email: chaille@chailledefaria.com Leaders:Chaille DeFaria- PCC, CDWF and Karen Pickett, LMFT  We are holding a 1 day Experiential Overview based on Dr. Brené Brown’s book Daring Greatly. This is a great opportunity to get a taste of what it means to choose …

What Clients Say

Our 13-year-old daughter has been in remission for several months now because of the coaching she received from Chaille. It did not take long for our whole family to trust her ability to make us feel comfortable. We owe Chaille for the happiness that has been restored in our beautiful daughter and our family as a whole.

Sandy Hardin

2018-01-13T01:35:08+00:00

Sandy Hardin

Our 13-year-old daughter has been in remission for several months now because of the coaching she received from Chaille. It did not take long for our whole family to trust her ability to make us feel comfortable. We owe Chaille for the happiness that has been restored in our beautiful daughter and our family as a whole.
I am the parent of a daughter with Dermatillomania. Before I began corresponding with Chaille, I never had the opportunity to speak with anyone knowledgable on this condition. Like my daughter, I felt alone, helpless, and hopeless. I know longer feel that way. Chaille listens to my worries and frustrations and guides me to better understand how I can help her. It gives me great comfort knowing that my daughter and I have found someone who is honest, knowledgeable, and supportive while working towards managing this condition.

Elizabeth, Kalamazoo, Michigan

2018-01-13T01:36:01+00:00

Elizabeth, Kalamazoo, Michigan

I am the parent of a daughter with Dermatillomania. Before I began corresponding with Chaille, I never had the opportunity to speak with anyone knowledgable on this condition. Like my daughter, I felt alone, helpless, and hopeless. I know longer feel that way. Chaille listens to my worries and frustrations and guides me to better understand how I can help her. It gives me great comfort knowing that my daughter and I have found someone who is honest, knowledgeable, and supportive while working towards managing this condition.
I have been dealing with Dermatillomania for 12 years. I have been working with Chaille, once a week, since Spring 2016. She helps me find ways to control my urges. Chaille is the first person I have connected with who understands my struggles. I now know I am not the only one who suffers from this, and there is help out there. Having Chaille’s support gives me hope that I can be successful in managing my picking.

Alexie, Michigan

2018-01-13T01:36:27+00:00

Alexie, Michigan

I have been dealing with Dermatillomania for 12 years. I have been working with Chaille, once a week, since Spring 2016. She helps me find ways to control my urges. Chaille is the first person I have connected with who understands my struggles. I now know I am not the only one who suffers from this, and there is help out there. Having Chaille’s support gives me hope that I can be successful in managing my picking.
As a person who's been suffering from trich for 15 years and going through multiple therapists and psychiatrists, which didn't yield any results, meeting Chaille was nothing short of miracle. With her I've learned to accept my journey with trich and have learned how to manage it. Her holistic approach helped me with all aspects of my life not just trich. She's a very warm person which makes it that much easier to open up and trust her.

S. Ghamdi

Sara, Saudi Arabia

2018-12-13T19:28:25+00:00

Sara, Saudi Arabia

As a person who's been suffering from trich for 15 years and going through multiple therapists and psychiatrists, which didn't yield any results, meeting Chaille was nothing short of miracle. With her I've learned to accept my journey with trich and have learned how to manage it. Her holistic approach helped me with all aspects of my life not just trich. She's a very warm person which makes it that much easier to open up and trust her. S. Ghamdi
I can not find words strong enough or deep enough to convey my gratitude. I still can't.  We searched for help here in Texas for almost two years before we found you across the country.  Without you our daughter would have lost all hope and understanding.

We can never repay you.

Thank you!
Joe Shelnutt,
Granbury, Texas
2018-12-13T19:33:25+00:00
Joe Shelnutt,
Granbury, Texas
I can not find words strong enough or deep enough to convey my gratitude. I still can't.  We searched for help here in Texas for almost two years before we found you across the country.  Without you our daughter would have lost all hope and understanding. We can never repay you. Thank you!
The impact Chaille has had on our daughter and our family is bigger than words can express. When we first met Chaille, our 11 year-old daughter was sad and ashamed, and we were at a loss, trying everything we could to help her, and feeling frustrated. Not only did Chaille listen to her and understood her, but she helped her, and us, realize that her trichotillomania did not define her, and brought back the amazingly strong and self-assured girl we once knew. Chaille is kind, respectful and amazing all around. The confidence she gave our daughter is priceless, and I can never thank her enough for what she did for our whole family.

 

Catherine, Ottawa, Ontario

2018-12-13T19:37:41+00:00

Catherine, Ottawa, Ontario

The impact Chaille has had on our daughter and our family is bigger than words can express. When we first met Chaille, our 11 year-old daughter was sad and ashamed, and we were at a loss, trying everything we could to help her, and feeling frustrated. Not only did Chaille listen to her and understood her, but she helped her, and us, realize that her trichotillomania did not define her, and brought back the amazingly strong and self-assured girl we once knew. Chaille is kind, respectful and amazing all around. The confidence she gave our daughter is priceless, and I can never thank her enough for what she did for our whole family.  
“Chaille has a deeply personal and connected way of facilitating that allows each participant during the workshop to feel fully seen. I appreciate the way she disseminates information, and is constantly able to link it back to Brene Brown’s work. I love how she’s able to access her own life in connection to the work, inviting others to step into that space of vulnerability as well. It’s a space of true transformation.”   Carolyn Michelle Smith
2019-06-28T00:28:23+00:00
“Chaille has a deeply personal and connected way of facilitating that allows each participant during the workshop to feel fully seen. I appreciate the way she disseminates information, and is constantly able to link it back to Brene Brown’s work. I love how she’s able to access her own life in connection to the work, inviting others to step into that space of vulnerability as well. It’s a space of true transformation.”   Carolyn Michelle Smith
"Pairing the dynamic work of Brene Brown with the heart and skill of Chaille makes for a powerful experience.  Chaille practices what she preaches.  Her own authenticity and courage inspired me.  Her ability to create a group environment free of judgement helped me be more deeply honest with myself.  This work of growing in authenticity isn’t always easy, but Chaille can help guide you there.   And, it’s worth the effort!  I am grateful for what I learned and experienced in both her Daring Greatly and Rising Strong groups".

~Jeania Schilling

 
2019-06-28T00:30:45+00:00
"Pairing the dynamic work of Brene Brown with the heart and skill of Chaille makes for a powerful experience.  Chaille practices what she preaches.  Her own authenticity and courage inspired me.  Her ability to create a group environment free of judgement helped me be more deeply honest with myself.  This work of growing in authenticity isn’t always easy, but Chaille can help guide you there.   And, it’s worth the effort!  I am grateful for what I learned and experienced in both her Daring Greatly and Rising Strong groups". ~Jeania Schilling  
"I have participated in two of Chaille’s Brené Brown based classes, both were enlightening and benefited me greatly.  Chaille has a positive, loving manner that allows for the development of a strong bond between participants.  She is supportive and knows the material very well.  Bringing her own personal insights when it makes sense, she allows participants to work through thoughts and/or issues that the material brings up.  The classes were eye opening and very worthwhile both personally and professionally". 

~Renate Jordan
2019-06-28T00:32:35+00:00
"I have participated in two of Chaille’s Brené Brown based classes, both were enlightening and benefited me greatly.  Chaille has a positive, loving manner that allows for the development of a strong bond between participants.  She is supportive and knows the material very well.  Bringing her own personal insights when it makes sense, she allows participants to work through thoughts and/or issues that the material brings up.  The classes were eye opening and very worthwhile both personally and professionally".  ~Renate Jordan
I had the most life-changing experience taking the Rising Strong workshop with Chaille. She facilitates the workshop with such grace, patience, honesty, and inspiration. I had to work through some of my most difficult moments, and Chaille was right there to walk me through all of them. I'll take this work with me for the rest of my life.

-Jong
2019-07-14T23:34:43+00:00
I had the most life-changing experience taking the Rising Strong workshop with Chaille. She facilitates the workshop with such grace, patience, honesty, and inspiration. I had to work through some of my most difficult moments, and Chaille was right there to walk me through all of them. I'll take this work with me for the rest of my life. -Jong

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